For many people, being told they need to attend a MIAM (Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting) can be daunting. It’s often associated with court proceedings, conflict or pressure to “sort things out” quickly. However, a MIAM is actually designed to do the opposite. It gives you time, space and information so you can make informed decisions about what happens next.
In this article we explain what happens in a MIAM, and how it could help you to reach a more amicable outcome.
Why MIAMs exist
MIAMs were introduced to ensure separating couples understand what the alternatives to court proceedings are, before starting certain family law applications. However, over time their role has evolved. A MIAM is not just a legal tick-box exercise, it is a screening and information meeting designed to assess suitability, safety and personal circumstances of the parties involved.
Attending a MIAM does not necessarily mean mediation will go ahead. Neither does it mean you have agreed to anything. It simply starts a conversation.
What happens before the meeting
Before the MIAM, you may be asked to complete a short form or provide background information. This helps the mediator understand the context of your situation, such as whether children or finances are involved.
Many people worry about saying the “wrong thing”, but there is no right or wrong answer. The meeting is confidential and focused on your experience.
What actually happens during a MIAM
MIAMs are usually carried out on a one-to-one basis. You will not be expected to negotiate or interact with the other person.
During the meeting, the mediator will:
- Ask about your family situation and what has brought you there
- Discuss any concerns about safety, power imbalance or communication
- Explain what mediation involves and how it works in practice
- Outline alternative options, including solicitor negotiation, arbitration or court
Sensitive topics, including domestic abuse, are handled carefully and privately. This is a crucial part of the suitability assessment.
What doesn’t happen in a MIAM
A MIAM is not:
- A joint session with your former partner
- A legal advice appointment
- A forum for blame or judgement
- A commitment to continue with mediation
You are not required to justify your choices or convince anyone of your position.
What happens after the MIAM
At the end of the meeting, there are several possible outcomes:
- Mediation is suitable and you choose to proceed
- Mediation is suitable but you decide not to continue
- Mediation is unsuitable and alternatives are discussed
If mediation is not appropriate, the mediator can explain next steps and, where relevant, complete the necessary documentation for court.
Why MIAMs are important
MIAMs protect people from being pushed into a route that may not be right for them. They prioritise safety, informed choice and realistic expectations. For many, they provide clarity at a time when everything feels uncertain.
At Consilia Mediation we are experienced, trusted family mediators. If you want to chat with us to find out if mediation could be the right path for you, give us a call on 0113 322 9222 or email enquiries@consilialegal.co.uk