Online Family Mediation

Would attending mediation online make things easier? Discuss your circumstances with our family mediation team and find out how remote sessions could work for you.

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At Consilia Mediation we are able to offer our clients a fully comprehensive mediation service including online mediation.

Online mediation has become more prevalent in the mediation arena following the Coronavirus crisis in a time where face to face sessions are not possible. However online sessions are something which we have previously offered to clients where for example the parties live far apart and/or where face to face mediation is not suitable. Online mediation also enables us to offer our services throughout the UK including London based clients and not just client’s in the local Yorkshire area.

How does online Mediation work?

Before mediation can begin, it is necessary in every case for each party to attend a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting, more commonly known as a MIAM. At this initial session, the mediator provides information on how mediation can assist, and each party has the opportunity to speak to the mediator alone and explain their current situation. At the end of the session, the mediator will assess whether they think mediation is a suitable means to resolve the dispute and each party will decide whether they would be willing to attend a joint session. If the answer from both the mediator and the parties is ‘yes’ then the mediator will make arrangements for a joint session between the parties and the mediator.

Where a mediation is to take place online, we offer a range of options for our clients when it comes to video call applications.

Where an individual has a smartphone or tablet device, video calls can take place by downloading a quick app or alternatively the video call can take place using a more traditional computer or laptop.

Video calls can take place by the following methods:

  • Zoom;
  • Skype;
  • Microsoft teams;
  • Facebook messenger;
  • Facetime;

As long as a client has access to one of the above programs, we can facilitate an online mediation.

We will often suggest Zoom to our clients as this allows video conferencing with multiple people and it enables parties to share documents and screen sharing etc.

How to set up zoom?

If you would like to make an appointment through Zoom the mediator will email you an appointment slot and you will be sent a link. You can click on the link when the meeting is due to take place and you will be joined into the meeting. It is not necessary to download the app initially but it is advisable to familiarise yourself with the program.

Once both parties and the mediator have joined the meeting, the three of you will be able to see and hear each other from your device.

Financial Mediation

For financial mediation sessions, the parties will each submit their financial disclosure via email or through Zoom where appropriate and this will be shared with the other party. The mediator will discuss in the individual MIAM appointment the process of financial disclosure. It is most likely that the mediator will carry out some work to prepare documents such as an asset schedule before the joint session takes place in order to allow the session to be as productive as possible.

Online Shuttle Mediations

Some parties prefer not to have any face to face contact with their ex-partner during mediation and wish for mediation to take place on a shuttle basis. Traditionally, this is where the mediator goes back and forth between the parties in separate rooms. Shuttle mediations can also be offered online and the mediator will go back and forth via video call to each party.

Frequently Asked Questions

I Will Be In The House With My Ex-Partner And Children, Is Online Mediation Appropriate?

As mediators we always encourage parties to ensure that any children are not privy to discussions surrounding their separation. The current situation is no exception to that. For mediation to work remotely, parties will need to ensure that children are not in earshot when the session takes place. For some this may be difficult with young children and the inability to ask others to watch them. If you are concerned about this, please contact one of our mediators to discuss further options available.

I Live With My Husband, Can We Log On Together Using One Screen?

There is no reason why both parties cannot be in the same room using the same device if they both wish to do so. It is however important for both parties to respect the discussions which take place with the mediator present and when the video call ends refrain from continuing the discussion unless both parties wish to do so in which case they would need to report back to the mediator at the next session. Again if this is a concern, please contact the mediator to discuss further and consider other options.

I Only Have Limited Access To The Internet?

Unfortunately, without access to the internet or mobile data the video call cannot take place and other options may need to be explored before mediation can take place.

I Am Worried My Ex-Partner Will Simply Talk Over Me And The Mediator If We’re Not Round A Table?

It is the mediator’s responsibility to manage the mediation room whether there is in person or virtually. Whether a mediation takes place around a table or online, the mediator will ensure that both parties have an opportunity to be heard and that any power imbalance is dealt with appropriately.

I’m Concerned That I May Not Be Able To Be As Assertive On A Screen Than I Would Be Round A Table And End Up Agreeing To Points That I’m Not Happy About.

In mediation, we encourage parties to reflect on discussions and not to feel pressured into reaching proposals without sufficient time to process the options. The same applies to online mediation sessions. We would therefore suggest that there is more than one session so that each party can consider the other parties’ proposals in their own time and also obtain independent legal advice. As with round table mediations, if you wish to involve your solicitor in the online mediation that can be arranged.

For more information on how mediation works remotely by online video call or to arrange an appointment, please contact us on 0113 322 9222 or at enquiries@consiliamediation.co.uk.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can My Child’s Views Be Heard As Part Of The Process?

Yes a child can be spoken to by a qualified child consultant with both parents consent. As part of the process the child consultant will speak to your child, where appropriate depending upon the age of your child(ren) and the circumstances of your situation. All parties to the process must be in agreement. Child consultation can be an effective method of allowing your child(ren) to talk and tell you their views and concerns via our specially trained mediator. Child consultation is a confidential process and our mediator will only report back what we have agreed with your child(ren) they feel ok with us telling you. We would carefully screen for the appropriateness of involving your child(ren) in the process at the MIAM appointment and first joint session.

Do I Have To Attend A MIAM?

The law clearly states that save for certain exceptional circumstance you MUST attend a mediation information and assessment meeting prior to issuing an application under the Child Arrangements Programme or an application for a financial remedy pursuant to divorce or civil partnership dissolution.

Do I Have To Sit In The Same Room As The Other Party?

Family mediation typically involves you sitting in the same room as the mediator and the other party. Mediation can however in certain situations take place on a shuttle basis with you and the other party sitting in separate rooms. Our mediators will discuss this as an option if appropriate at the assessments (MIAM) stage of the process. We can arrange for you to wait in a separate area to the other party and stagger leaving times if this would assist alleviate concerns.

Do I Need A Solicitor?

Mediation is not an alternative to legal advice. Our mediators are specialist family solicitors and as such we have a good and sound working knowledge of the law and legal processes which is important when considering options. We recommend that you seek advice however from a solicitor between sessions. The reason for this is because we are the impartial third parties in the process and cannot provide individual advice. We can however discuss options and provide some explanation as to the law and legal processes.

Research shows that success rates of family mediation are enhanced when each party has independent legal advice when going through the mediation process, particularly in financial-based mediation.

How Long Does Family Mediation Take?

The length of the process depends very much upon the number of sessions required and the period of time between sessions. A typical process would involve the assessment stage and then 2 or 3 mediations lasting between 60 – 90 minutes 3-4 weeks apart. We are happy to work flexibly with you however to meet the needs of your situation.

Is Mediation Legally Binding?

Mediation is a confidential process. Discussions which take place within mediation sessions cannot be referred to in Court. In legal terms, this is termed as “without prejudice”. If you reach a settlement within the mediation process then our mediators will prepare a Memorandum of Understanding which is a document setting out matters discussed and the consensus reached. Once you have approved that documentation then you can take that document to your respective legal advisors who can seek that the Court make an order to make the agreement legally binding. In financial mediations, this may be by way of a deed of separation or consent order.

In children mediations then the Court may make an order following a successful mediation if it feels it is appropriate to do so. This is not guaranteed and is at the discretion of the Court.

In financial mediations, we also prepare an Open Financial Statement containing a summary of your respective financial information.

We also believe it is helpful to set out in writing after each session a summary of the issues discussed so that we all keep a running summary of how mediation is progressing. You can show this document to your solicitors although it cannot be relied upon on in Court.

What Are The Benefits Of Family Mediation?

Mediation is far quicker and cheaper, financially and emotionally than Court proceedings and allows you to remain in control of the decisions affecting your future.

If you have children then mediation can assist you to rebuild/retain a working dialogue with other party to assist you to parent effectively with the other party.

What Is A MIAM?

A mediation information and assessment meeting. This is stage 1 in the mediation process. The purpose of this meeting is to meet the mediator, find out about the process of mediation and other methods of resolving disputes, discuss your issues with the mediator and the mediator can assess whether family mediation is a suitable process to help you and the other party resolve your issues.

We would usually see you and your other party separately and if mediation was to progress then we would set up a joint session. If either of you is unwilling to engage in the substantive mediation process or our mediator feels that your issues or your circumstances mean that mediation is not suitable then as accredited mediators we can sign the Court forms, the Form A or the C100 form which you would need to issue a Court application.

It is a requirement save for limited exceptions that you MUST attend a MIAM appointment prior to issuing proceedings as to whether children should live or spend time with you or another party, or as to financial matters subsequent to divorce or civil partnership breakdown.

What Is Family Mediation?

Family mediation is a process of resolving conflict with an ex-partner in relation to matters concerning your property and finances or your children or both. An independent family mediator facilitates discussions regarding these issues with you and your ex-partner and works with you to achieve a mutually agreeable outcome. Visit our Family Mediation section.

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